My 40-day holiday for this summer is over and one of the first things I started / continued to do is writing blogs, including this one because that makes me immensely happy. One part of my holiday I spent with my son, a part with my partner, a part with a friend, a part by myself – on a detox program in Slovenia, at Radenci Health Resort where I was really impressed with service, food, and of course with losing 7 kg in eight days with no effort and sacrifice, but enjoying and under medical observation. Definitely an experience that I recommend.
When I lost that surplus of kilograms (for those looking for a reason – my attitude is to enjoy while working in neighboring countries) I continued in the same way – getting rid of burdens/surpluses in other areas as well. Anyway, my motto is ‘less is more’ and I like a simple lifestyle, but this is something of which we should remind ourselves more often.
- Less things (although I do it regularly, 8 sacks of everything was thrown quickly out of my apartment, all the things I did not use, things that did not make me happy, things that I did not really need, etc.)
- Less activities (regularly but not regularly enough I remind myself that saying ‘no’ to others means saying ‘yes’ to yourself, and especially in planning my business for this fall I focused on things that really have made me happy so far but I have reduced their number considering that my top priority is sleep, inner peace … and as much free time as possible)
- Less people (refusing different invitations for coffee and ideas for cooperation – I am a 99% extrovert person, I am addicted to new ideas and challenges of creating something new, creating something out of nothing, so this is a very difficult step for me but necessary)
- Less information (I unsubscribed from a number of newsletters… again)
- Less virtual people (I deleted so far some 700 Facebook friends and I continue to do it every day little by little, that is why I created a page and have a closed mentoring group, but on my profile in the news feed I still want to see what people that I know (as good as possible) do)
- New/old healthy priorities – maybe because of age, maybe I came to my senses in the last moment, I don’t know but without exceptions sleep is on the top of my priorities, then comes meditation/prayer then exercise and breakfast… and my day can begin…
It is summer – the assumption is that most of us were on vacation. If nothing else, at least we stopped for a moment and had the opportunity to consider if we are going in the right direction, if we live the way we want, if we are happy, fulfilled and/or if we need a turnaround.
My suggestion / invitation through this blog for those who want a life detox, and not just a physical one…
Just stop for a moment. You don’t need to do anything (except die, and yes, pay taxes). Life is not a race.
Listen to your own intuition.
- What do you really want?
- What makes you happy?
- What would you do even if you know it won’t work – yes, you have read well, usually everybody asks you what you would do if you know that you will succeed, but what is what really fulfills you and what is that you would do even if you know it won’t work and you don’t care about results because you enjoy in it so much.
- Who do you really want to hang out with – are there people in your circle who only complain, who are chauvinists, nationalists or the like, something you do not approve… As a friend of mine would say: leave all those things that you are supposed to do. I need, I must, it would be ok to do lists.
- Sleep as much as your body requires
- Eat when you are hungry.
And all those seemingly common „boring“ advice that spurt out of magazines for women – love yourself… and all that…
In all this I think the most important thing for happiness is to focus on GRATITUDE – being thankful for everything we have, and not to focus on what we still don’t’ have.
At the end of the day we all just want to be happy. That’s all. Right?
I believe we can agree that there are almost no perfect circumstances – we can always just make the most of what we have available.
What many people can confirm – we get an immense strength when we unburden ourselves from everything, things, activities, people, different relationships in which we are not happy, friends who drain us in different ways, self-imposed obligations, all the things we don’t really want to do but we do them because that’s the way it should be, it is a custom, habit, fear of change… Whatever.
After all, everyone knows the best for himself/herself and for everything we are only accountable to God (if you are a believer) and to the person in our mirror.